Perhaps you’ve experienced it to. That feeling that you’re not ‘good enough’ because you compare yourself to others who are in different circumstances.
These feelings of insecurity can be associated with our physical appearance, intelligence, social skills, talents, or any number of other personal attributes.
Our inner critics can be so loud that it can completely paralyse us and get in the way of living our best lives. We begin to believe that it’s a true representation of reality and before we know it, we accept it.
To stop the cycle of these unhelpful thoughts, we have to stand up to the emotions that make us believe these untruths about ourselves.
❤️What evidence have I got that I’m not good enough?
❤️What are my strengths and achievements?
❤️What can I do to change how I feel?
The term ‘good enough’ is an unrealistic standard we set for ourselves, which only makes us feel worse about ourselves.
Instead of punishing ourselves so we can finally feel worthy, it’s useful to examine what drives us in life. When we are clear about that, we can grow and flourish.
As Lori Deschene remarked: We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.”
The truth is that we are all good enough, we just have to remind ourselves of it a little more often.